INVEST IN LOVE!!!

As they say: " the bigger your investment, the bigger your returns", but you have to be willing to take a chance, you might have to understand you might lose it all, but you can still take that chance if you invest wisely, because the payoff might just surprise you…

Sometimes the answer we get, just confirms our worst fears. But sometimes it can shed new light on the problem. You see it in a whole new way. After all the opinions have been heard and every point of view has been considered, you finally find what you were after, The Truth, but the truth isn’t where it ends. That’s just where you begin again. With a whole new set of questions...

Peace is not a permanent state. It exists in moments, fleeing, gone before we even knew it was there. We can experience it at any time, in the stranger’s act of kindness, a task which requires a complete focus, or simply a comfort of an old routine. Every day we all experience these moments in peace, the trick is to know when they are happening so that we can embrace them, live in them. And finally let them go...

Eventually whatever it is, that is making us stops feeling good and starts hurting. Still they say don’t kick the habit till you hit rock bottom, the thing is how do you know when you are there because no matter how bad a thing is hurting us, it hurts even more to let it go...

According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, when we're dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief. We go into DENIAL because the loss is so unthinkable we can't imagine it's true. We become ANGRY with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves. Then we BARGAIN. We beg. We plead. We offer everything we have; we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into DEPRESSION, despair, until finally we have to ACCEPT that we've done everything we can. We let go. We let go and move into acceptance...

Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone. It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change. And when we wonder why it has to suck so much, sometimes it has to hurt so badly. The thing we gotta try to remember is that, it can turn on a dime. That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive. By remembering that one day, somehow, possibly, you won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much. Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is trying for honesty. The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can't control it. The best we can do is tried to let ourselves feel it when it comes. And let it go when we can. The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again. And always, every time, it takes your breath away...

Everybody wants a piece of you. We take one little oath and suddenly we are drowning in obligations. So, we do what any sane person will do. We run like hell from our promises hoping they will be forgotten. But sooner or later they always catch up and sometimes you find the obligation you dread the most, isn’t worth running from it at all...

We're all susceptible to it, the dread and anxiety of not knowing what's coming. It's pointless in the end, because all the worrying and the making of plans for things that could or could not happen, it only makes things worse. So walk your dog or take a nap. Just whatever you do, stop worrying, because the only cure for paranoia is to be here, just as you are...

There is always a way. When things look like there's no way, there is a way. To do the impossible, to survive the un-survivable, there is always a way…so invest in love because the payoff might just blows your mind away…

( Archives - Old write up, extracted from my Facebook notes)

Zee...x

Humor: Installing Husband

"Humor is the tendency of particular cognitive experiences to provoke laughter and provide  amusement". This post just to amuse me and others that have great sense of humor, so if you the type that can not easily be jolted out of your misery by mere jokes, apparently, I have a totally different sense of humor :) Read on...

Dear Tech Support,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and I noticed a distinct slowdown in the overall system performance, particularly in the Flower and Jewelry applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5 and then installed undesirable programs such as NEWS 5.0, MONEY 3.0 and SOCCER 4.1.

Conversation 8.0 no longer runs and House Cleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system. Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail. What can I do?

Signed, -----------

Reply:

Dear Madam,

First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an Operating System. Please enter command: html//ithoughtyoulovedme.cmd and try to download Tears 6.2 and do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update. If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewellery 2.0 and Flowers 3.5

However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Silence 2.5 or Beer 6.1

Please note that Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will upgrade the SL (Snoring Loudly).

Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.)

In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance.

We recommend: Cooking 3.0 and Hot Looks 7.7.

There is a new application available on iTunes called Romance 3.O. It now gives weekly reminders and ensures that Marriage 2.1 doesn't crash.

Good Luck!

                                           Humor...hahahahahahahahahaaa

Zee

Changes: Life as it is...

“Changes occur at the curve of crisis”…

When we say things like "people don't change" it drives scientist crazy because change is literally the only constant in all of science. Energy matters it’s always changing, morphing, merging, growing, and dying. It's the way people try not to change that's unnatural. The way we cling to what things were instead of letting things are what they are. The way we cling to old memories instead of forming new ones, the way we insist on believing despite every scientific indication that anything in this lifetime is permanent. Change is constant. How we experience change that's up to us. It can feel like death or it can feel like a second chance at life. If we open our fingers, loosen our grips, go with it, it can feel like pure adrenaline. Like at any moment we can have another chance at life. Like at any moment, we can be born all over again. 

Ask most people what they want out of life and the answer is simple - to be happy. Maybe it's this expectation though of wanting to be happy that just keeps us from ever getting there. Maybe the more we try to will ourselves to states of bliss, the more confused we get - to the point where we don't recognize ourselves. Instead we just keep smiling - trying to be the happy people we wish we were. Until it eventually hits us, it's been there all along. Not in our dreams or our hopes but in the known, the comfortable, the familiar.

It's a common belief that positive thinking leads to a happier healthier life. As children we are told to smile, be cheerful, and put on a happy face. As adults we are told to look on the bright side, to make lemonade, and see glasses as half full. Sometimes reality can get in the way of our ability to act the happy part though. Your hopes can fail, boyfriends can cheat, friends can disappoint. It's in these moments, when you just want to get real, drop the act, and be your true scared unhappy self.

We have to constantly come up with new ways to fix ourselves. So we change, we adapt. We create new versions of ourselves. We just need to be sure that this one is an improvement over the last.

Sometimes the past is something you just can't let go of. And sometimes the past is something we'll do anything to forget. And sometimes we learn something new about the past that changes everything we know about the present.

When we're headed toward an outcome that's too horrible to face, that's when we go looking for a second opinion. And sometimes, the answer we get just confirms our worst fears. But sometimes, it can shed new light on the problem; make you see it in a whole new way. After all the opinions have been heard and every point of view has been considered, you finally find what you're after - the truth. But the truth isn't where it ends, that's just where you begin again with a whole new set of questions.

We begin life with few obligations. We pledge allegiance to the flag. We swear to return our library books. But as we get older we take vows, make promises, get burden by commitments, to do no harm, to tell the truth and nothing but, to love, to cherish till death do us part. So we just keep running up the tap 'til we owe everything to everybody and suddenly ... just when we think we figured things out, the universe throws us a curve ball, so we have to improvise! we find happiness where we lest expected, we find our way back to things that matters the most. The universe is funny that way, sometimes it just have a way of making sure we wind up exactly where we belong and it does not matter what life throws at you, you can not give up on a change!

So if you get a change, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it'd be easy; they just promised it would be worth it because eventually feels a lot better than actually...

Zee